Now that I’m starting to adapt back to real life (slowly I’ll admit), I’ve had some time to reflect on my wedding, and the entire planning process. It actually stemmed from a close friend of mine who got engaged last week, and while we were out celebrating she started (naturally) asking me tons of questions – Where do I get started? What do I really need to know? What is the best advice you can give me?
I thought about it for a few minutes and answered her honestly – “Just remember, it’s all about you and him. No one else.” It’s similar to the advice I gave in my recent post on my wedding day – reflecting on how important it is to take time to relax and actually enjoy your wedding instead of getting caught up in all the hoopla.
But later, I thought about it more and offered her another piece of advice – “Ask for help.”
This is something that I really struggled with during my wedding planning process. There were several reason why originally – mostly because I didn’t know who to ask or when or what I needed help with – but as I look back I wish I would have reached our earlier.
For me, it unfortunately took a tragedy in my personal life to put things into perspective. As my attention shifted only a few weeks before the wedding and I was incredibly stressed with finalizing details, I had endless people offering to help. And I said yes.
One of my best friends found my wedding shoes for me. Two of my bridesmaids picked out the bridesmaid hairstyles and shoes as well. My parents bought all of the items for our favors, and one of my aunts came over to help us all package them together. And so much more…
But what I didn’t realize was that these people were offering all along, I just didn’t know how to use them. So that’s my second piece of advice as I look back on it all…and I hope anyone put into the same position is able to embrace anyone in their life willing to be a part of it all.
♥ HOF Girl